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Well every since I�ve had the abnormal EKG, I�ve been really thinking about me and my son�s future. If for some strange reason I die before he�s 18, I want to make sure he is taken care of. I wanted to check into getting a will made out. So me and some of the co-workers were talking about making a will. I was a lil shocked at what they told me.
1. Even if I have a will and my son is under 18 years of age, he still has one living parent, his father will automatically get custody.
2. Whatever I leave my son behind, his father can go in front of a judge and say that he is having a hard time financially and make up some reason why he needs money (i.e.: my son�s schooling, clothing, and all that stuff) and they will award him money outta his trust. The only way to get around that is to leave it someone else's name (my mother)that I know would do the right thing with the money.
3. The only way that I can designate who gets custody of him is if for some reason his father dies as well or he signs over his rights.
So of course I had to find out if his father would do this. I brought it to him in a subtle way and this is his true responses:
Me: If I was to die tomorrow, what would you do with my son?
Him: Well I would take care of him the best way I can.
Me: Well I�m sorry, that�s not good enough.
Him: I�d do what I gotta do.
Me: Okay I�m alive and your not doing �what you gotta do�, so how can I feel better at knowing if I die you will take care of him?
Him: I�ll do the best I can.
Me: That�s still not working. Ok let�s say my mother wanted custody of him, would you be willing to give my son to her?
Him: Pauses......Yeah I would have no problem in doing that for your mom.
Me: Well the only way that you can do that is if you sign over the rights to her.
Him: Why the fuck would I wanna do that? I�d be less of a man signing over my kid!!!
Me: Ok I need a guarantee that my son is gonna be ok if I die. Right now in reality, you�re not doing your job. If you were, we wouldn�t be having this conversation!!!
Him: You make me feel like I ain�t shit.
Me: Well like I said, if you were doing things that I needed you to do, we wouldn�t even be discussing this.
Him: Well I�ve got some things in the works right now.
Me: You know you�ve been having things in the works since he was born. As far as I�m concerned, your words don�t mean shit to me any more!!! I�ve heard your fucking words for 4 � years and frankly I�m tired. Let�s just think about if you were in my shoes, your main goal would be to make sure he�s taken care of. And I feel more comfortable knowing that he is in the care of my mother....period!!!
So people let�s just say that I really pissed him off to the fullest, but guess what�.I DON�T GIVE A FUCK!! And hopefully before this year is over, I will get my will and the S.O.B. will sign over his rights!!!!
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